Mechanice Thinks I need a new ECM - Details Inside

For electrical problems (gremlins) in older cars, you also want to check every ground wire. A little corrosion and rust can cause these problems. There are lots so you'll need a wiring diagram for your model.
I agree with you, a bad ECM doesn't seem likely, especially with no Check Engine codes coming up.

 

Are you sure the mechanic didn't say BCM (body control module)? ECM is the engine control module, and none of the things you're posting about are in its job description.

 

Yeah that would be well what I would call quite rare actually there's something going on here but I don't know Just sounds real fishy the whole body control module that controls lots of stuff in the repair manual oh my goodness You don't have an extensive bunch of testing to do so that's where you need to go for this or somebody needs to go there for it The real factory manual and you'll be able to eliminate all of the nonsense that really does make a huge difference when you're tracking down something like this or unless you know the car that well there obvious things people that work on things are going to check grounds and so on but there's got to be a little more to the problem I'll have to read over your post again I guess.